In today’s episode Ben talks about a surprising day where he learned a lot about what leads to fulfillment in life, how easy it is to abandon our needs in favour of achievement-seeking, and how to reconnect with what those needs really are.
Things mentioned in this podcast
– Ben’s blog post: Dear Mum, I can’t change the world
– Non-Violent Communication, by Marshall Rosenberg: This workshop video on YouTube is pretty comprehensive. If you prefer just audio I also very much like this 2 hour, 2 part audio program from Sounds True, Speaking Peace. If you want the most complete experience, the original 5 hour Non-violent Communication audiobook is wonderful.
Non-Violent Communication has completely changed the way I communicate with and listen to my wife and kids, all to the benefit of our relationships. More on that in another episode…
In today’s Being Happiness podcast, ‘Look After Today’, Ben talks about the origins of his interest in mindfulness, trips to Plum Village, and the importance of looking after every day as the best way we have of taking care of the future.
Links to books and podcasts mentioned in this episode:
Peace is Every Step – Thich Nhat Hanh – The book that introduced me to mindfulness and led me to Plum Village.
Being Peace in a World of Trauma – On Being podcast with Police Officer Cheri Maples and Thich Nhat Hanh – ‘I know that if you know how to handle the present moment right, with our best [intention], then that is about everything you can do for the future. That is why I’m at peace with myself.’
‘10% Happier with Dan Harris’ and George Mumford – The mindful sports coach – ‘Manage this moment and then that will affect the next moment. Manage this day and it will affect the next. It really is as simple as that’.
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Welcome to the first episode of the Being Happiness podcast, I’d love it if you listen and leave me a comment. In this show I look at the idea that beyond today’s media, if we listen to the voices that show human life is improving, and look at the beauty of the world around us, we can find great happiness and meaning in our lives.
Please do subscribe to the podcast in Apple Podcasts/iTunes. If you rate and review the show there too, it’ll help more people find it. Thanks!
About starting this podcast (and anything new).
I set about starting this podcast a year ago, recorded an episode, became filled with doubt (‘is it the right thing to do with my time right now?’) and imposter’s syndrome (‘who am I to talk about such important things as meaning and happiness?’), and shelved the idea. Now I’m ready to do it, and perhaps that’s just the way life works, but I also realised a few important things in the past week or so:
1. There is no point in not doing something because it might mean I don’t do something else I’m not doing either.
2. If I don’t do something, I can’t find out where it might take me.
3. Doubt and imposters syndrome are negative mental constructs that are not self-serving or in any way interesting if you want to pursue an interesting, meaningful life. They are to be gotten over!
And with that, here is the first episode of the Being Happiness podcast. Please subscribe in Apple Podcasts/iTunes if you use them, do leave me a comment, and let’s see where this goes.
The book mentioned in this podcast is Enlightenment Now by Stephen Pinker.